"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jer 29:11

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Why adoption and why China?


One of the main questions I received from people was why are you adopting when you have two girls already and why China?  If someone a year ago would have told me that we would be adopting a little boy from China I would have thought they were nuts!  To say it happened fast is an understatement.  I think a lot of things had to happen first before we heard the Lord whisper to us.  Actually, it felt more of a mental push but I can’t explain the exact feeling.  One thing that had to happen was our life had to be decluttered.  I have for a long time felt the pull of adoption.  It just seemed like something I would need to do in my life, but I was too busy with my social life and organizing activities.  I won’t go into it here but many of you know how the Lord took away all those distractions. 



I had talked to Dan before about maybe adopting but his heart was not open to it….yet.  I was feeling the push to adopt more than ever around June 2011, and brought it up to Dan.  I knew nothing about adopting and did not know if I wanted domestic, South America, or Africa.  And actually I knew at the time I did not want China. ( After just writing that I can see how God has a great sense of humor!)  But I digress.  I was interested in a boy because we have two girls and I just knew Dan would be an amazing father to a little boy. 



I remembered when I brought it up to him; it was not a straight no.   He started stressing about the money and so I assured him that it would be in another year or two before we even started (again God has a sense of humor).  So not knowing what was going to happen, he told me to research it.   

June 13-2011 I talked with a friend of mine who adopted a beautiful little girl from Kazakhstan, Rebecca Hyde.  Told her what we were thinking, but that we did not know where to start.  She was the first one to tell me about how China has little boys in orphanages with special needs.   I told her that I was not really interested in China (hahaha).  That night she sent me a link rainbowkids.org to help with my research.  It has information about adopting and it also has a waiting child list.  It is a list of children all over the world who are waiting for homes. 



I started to look at the waiting list and saw hundreds of kids that I felt empathy towards, but nothing more.  Then June 16-2011, I saw his picture! 


 I felt something immediately draw me to him.  I needed to show someone and sent his info and picture to Rebecca.  I was so scared to talk to Dan because I was only supposed to be researching!  Plus, this little boy, who I was sooo drawn to was cleft lip and palate.  Dan and I had not even talked about this special need.  I just knew he was going to say no.  But he didn’t!!!  This is one of the ways I knew God was working in our lives, because anyone that knows Dan, knows that he was very happy and content with his two girls and was not looking to add any stress as he calls it.  I don’t want to talk for him and how he felt and this post is long enough!  But basically Dan decided to take a chance and had me request his information.  And to make a loooong story short, we have decided to trust God and pursue this little guy who is in a Chinese orphanage!  It has all been amazing and a miracle financially thus far!

2 comments:

  1. I have loved watching and being a part of your journey so far! It's amazing to see the way God works to bring families together. Looking forward to watching your story unfold and seeing this precious little boy know the love of a family the way he deserves! God is good!

    p.s. The blog looks GREAT! Good job! :)

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  2. Such a great story! I am looking forward to seeing you bring your son home!

    Nora on FB

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